|English: Golden Corral restaurant at 3800 North Roxboro Street in Durham, North Carolina. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)|
I have long suspected that there are certain people who work in my son's dorm that have a lot more difficulty in dealing with some of his behavioral issues than others. I have felt that rather than alleviate some of his difficulties, they tend to exacerbate the situation. I do believe that it is important that he learn to behave properly with all of those he comes in contact with, however, I also think that they should learn the best ways of helping him get through difficult times.
My suspicions were somewhat confirmed when I called to check up on him a few days ago. The lady I happened to speak with was one of those that my son really responds well to. She was telling me that she almost never has any difficulty getting my son to behave and have a good day. We did have a discussion about one of the other ladies that I have suspected has a little more of a difficult time with my son. Turns out, she thinks the other lady has a bit of a personality conflict with my son. Often when I have spoken with this second person, she has reported that my son has had a difficult time.
The day when my son usually has his most difficult days is on Sundays. Frequently, the person who he gets along with (lady #1) is off that day. The one he doesn't get along with (lady #2) is usually one of the ones that work on Sunday. Often, we have shown up on a Sunday and my son has been having a difficult time. He has been non-compliant and often is crying. Today, however, he was in a pretty good mood and participating in activities when we walked in. I think primarily because lady #1 was working, and he knew we were coming.
In my conversation with lady #1 earlier in the week, she probably revealed a little more than she should have regarding lady #2. She had me that she has tried to tell #2 ways that she could get my son to respond better. For example, my son loves to listen to his music. Lady #1 lets him have it as long as he behaves. Lady #2, on the other hand, takes his music away and tries to force compliance first before allowing him to have music. Method #1 is far more effective. Lady #1 did tell me that she had heard that lady #2 will be dealing less regularly with my son.
Today, lady #2 was around the building but not in the area that my son was in. I do not know if that will be a permanent change, but if it helps him to do better then I am all for the change. We will be going back out for another visit in two weeks when it is time for the annual Chrome City Ride at the school. Hopefully, between now and then my son will have some better days. The past week has been a difficult one for him at school and in the dorm. We have told lady #1 that she needs to work with him 24/7 with no days off. After all, we only want what is best for our son.